A 60-Year-Old Is Tempted by an Old Friend

A 60-year-old married woman is tempted by long-distance flirtation on Facebook. Is her flirtation wrong, if it goes no further? See what advice columnist Amy Dickinson says in this edition of “Ask Amy.”

Dear Amy:

I am a married woman, and I’m 60 years old.

My husband and I have not had sex in over two years.

I keep hearing about people in their 60s having so much fun and sex.

My husband takes blood pressure medication and this has been hard on our sex life.

Here is the thing: A former friend of mine has been communicating with me via Facebook.

He and I have been flirting with each other, but we live in different cities.

He has told me that he wishes I was not married because he would come to town and sweep me off my feet.

He is so funny and caring and we talk via FB Messenger a lot.

I think about having sex with him all the time, and he says the same thing.

Is this long-distance flirtation wrong? What am I to do?

– Anxiously Awaiting

Dear Awaiting:

I’m sorry you are experiencing this challenge in your marriage. Is your constant communication with this other person and the sharing of thoughts and fantasies wrong?

How would you feel if you were impaired or ill, and your husband was engaged in long-distance flirtation?

Fantasy can be wonderful and life-affirming. You should not deny yourself that! You might even be able to take some of this energy back to your marriage. But this relationship presents a fairly slippery slope for you, and has started to interfere with your emotional connection with your husband.

Be aware.

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In the tradition of the great personal advice columnists, Chicago Tribune’s Amy Dickinson is a plainspoken straight shooter who relates to readers of all ages. She answers personal questions by addressing issues from both her head and her heart – ranging from a long-distance flirtation to DNA surprises. A solid reporter, Dickinson researches her topics to provide readers with informed opinions and answers. Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068

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